KEVIN THOMAS SLATTERY

June 5, 2020
SLATTERY, KEVIN THOMAS 3

“The measure of a man is in the lives he’s touched.”

—Ernie Banks

 

Kevin Thomas Slattery of Nashua, NH passed away at the age of 67 on Friday, June 5, 2020, at Southern New Hampshire Medical Center. He was surrounded by immediate family—his wife, Diane, and two sons, Jameson and Jaron.

 

Born in Nashua on October 30, 1952, to James P. Slattery and Lillian Y. (Chomard) Slattery Gamache, Kevin was the youngest of four children. His life changed drastically in 1959 when, at the age of 6, he suddenly lost his father. It was an event that shaped his life and played a major role in making him the amazing man he was. He was raised by his strong and loving mother, Lillian, with the help of three older siblings—brother Ronald, brother James, and sister Kathleen—who all loved their little brother dearly. He had a very unique and unbreakable bond with his sister, a bond that continued to strengthen through the years. In 1968 he fell in love with his beautiful wife-to-be, Diane (Fraser). After graduating from Bishop Guertin in 1970, Kevin enlisted in the US Army and returned home in 1973. Kevin and Diane wed in 1975 and for 45 beautiful years, she was his rock. Dedicated, loyal, and committed; she supported his every move. Kevin was a lifelong resident of the Nashua area, and the local community was surely the beneficiary of his selfless character.

 

In 1984, as a means to provide for his family, Kevin founded Etchstone Properties, a Nashua-based real estate development company. Kevin’s relentless determination and leadership forged the path of success during the early challenges of starting the business. Kevin grew Etchstone into one of the premier development companies in southern New Hampshire known for its unwavering commitment to quality and craftsmanship. More important than what he built was how he built it. Highly demanding, unquestionably fair, and willing and eager to work side-by-side with his team on every detail; Kevin’s team of direct employees and vast network of subcontractors and vendors were his first priority, and he took exceptional efforts to protect and support them and their families even in the most challenging of times.

 

Kevin was a man of profound Faith and always remained extremely grounded. A card in his desk drawer had a quote from Maya Angelou that read, “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” This seems profound when sharing Kevin’s life because he was a man of great integrity who always put others first. One knew after a conversation with Kevin that he deeply and genuinely cared. Principled and relentlessly honest, he was always unwilling to compromise on doing what was right.

 

Philanthropy became a major part of Kevin’s life as he grew older, and he loved every opportunity to help and give back to the community through many local non-profits and charities. He was a long-time board member of the United Way of Greater Nashua and was very dedicated to serving and helping with the innumerable efforts the organization supported. Kevin was also an extremely dedicated board member for many years at Home Health and Hospice Care, an organization he held in deep regard for its beautiful and compassionate care for critically ill and end-of-life patients. Additionally, he volunteered with Meals on Wheels, the Tolles Street Mission, and Edgewood Cemetery; and he had numerous other appointments, memberships, and volunteer roles throughout the greater Nashua community.

 

Kevin was preceded in death by his mother and father; his brother, James; and his infant brother, Kenneth. Surviving members of his family include his wife, Diane, and his two sons and their spouses—Jameson and Nicole Slattery of Carlsbad, CA and Jaron and Inga Slattery of Nashua; three granddaughters—Addison, Katelyn, and Taylor; two siblings and their spouses—Ronald and Blanche Slattery of Lake Suzy, FL and Kathleen and Richard Macomber of Rutland, MA; his sister-in-law, Dale Slattery; and many nieces, nephews, and cousins.

 

A dedicated and loyal son, brother, husband, father, grandfather, friend, and mentor; Kevin’s passing will leave a big void in the hearts of many. However, he would not want us to grieve for long. He would tell us all to begin the healing process by getting up an hour earlier, working an hour longer, and grinding just a little bit harder each day than we did the day before. He would tell us to put unwavering faith in our Creator and remind us that the pleasure of what we enjoy is lost by wanting more. Find peace in knowing that our separation is only temporary…until we meet again.

 

The Slattery family extends a special thanks to the entire staff of the Intensive Care Unit at Southern New Hampshire Medical Center who cared for Kevin during his lengthy stay. The family is also forever grateful for the exceptional care he received from the Oncology/Hematology team prior to his most recent health challenges. Although he cannot express it himself, the family is certain he is looking down upon these individuals with great reverence and admiration of the unwavering compassion they deliver with their remarkable care.

 

Due to continued pandemic restrictions, Kevin will be buried at Edgewood Cemetery in a small private ceremony for immediate family. Please visit www.kevinslattery.org to RSVP and receive forthcoming details on a celebration of life event that will take place in Fall 2020.

 

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in Kevin’s memory to United Way of Greater Nashua, 20 Broad St. #1, Nashua, NH 03064 or Home Health & Hospice Care, 7 Executive Park Dr., Merrimack, NH 03054. Donation links are also available at www.kevinslattery.org. Arrangements are in the care of the FARWELL FUNERAL SERVICE, 18 Lock Street, Nashua.

 

30 Comments on KEVIN THOMAS SLATTERY

Charles Tiedemann Amherst, NH said : Guest Report Jul 21, 2020 at 10:55 AM

My job as Town of Amherst Zoning Adm. brought me in contact working with Kevin when he was building subdivision on 122. I could not have worked with a nicer person. Such a sad loss for the family but all who knew him. Wish we had more people like him, it would be a better place.

Leslie Burnham said : Guest Report Jun 18, 2020 at 9:10 PM

I would like to extend my condolences to Mr. Slattery’s family and friends on his passing. From my first interaction, Mr. Slattery was such a beacon of kindness. He demonstrated unwavering patience as I was searching for my first home. His love for his family, and passion for crafting quality homes, was evident in every conversation. The Slattery family and Etchstone Properties will always hold a special place in my heart. Thinking of you all and praying for peace and comfort during this time.

Dick and Kathy Kaas said : Guest Report Jun 18, 2020 at 5:48 PM

Diane, Jay and Nicole, Jaron and Inga, We are so very sorry for your loss of Kevin. We have been amazed, although not surprised, by the mounting tributes to him online. He lived a life of integrity, kindness, generosity and selflessness. We saw these things lived out when Kevin helped us find a house for our adult son who is on the autism spectrum. In a time when we needed to move our son to a place that needed to be safe and secure, Kevin was there every step of the way and we appreciated his leadership more than we could have expressed.We saw his compassion and deep desire to help others, personally, in action. Kevin was a man whose heart was filled with joy when he had an opportunity to make a difference. Each time we tried to communicate our gratitude he would humbly say "I have been so richly blessed, it is a great pleasure for me to be able to help." We will forever be enormously grateful for all he did to help us. As you walk through this time of grieving, we pray that you are comforted by the sweet memories and are encouraged by the shared accolades from others. Addison, Katelyn, and Taylor, your Grandfather was a wonderful man who loved others through his actions. Kevin was so very well admired and respected in the community, but his impact on individual lives will be his legacy. And what a legacy he's leaving!

The Tolles Street Mission said : Guest Report Jun 15, 2020 at 11:21 AM

We very saddened to have just recently learned of Kevin's passing and we wish to extend our deepest condolences to The Slattery Family. He donated his time and resources to help us here at The Tolles Street Mission. Not only was he generous, he was also a kind man who was not afraid to share his love of the Lord with us. We will miss you Kevin, but we are so very grateful to have known you.

Greg Wingate said : Guest Report Jun 14, 2020 at 12:39 PM

I've had little contact with Kevin since we were youngsters, growing up together in the 50s and early 60s. Though a distant cousin, I always felt close to Kevin. I'm hearing he's the kind of person who had this effect on nearly everyone. Who could resist such cheerful warmth combined with intense diligence towards everything he valued, from work to relationships? He'll be missed but, more importantly, remembered and treasured.

Treff. said : Guest Report Jun 14, 2020 at 12:09 PM

Coming out of Canada at 18 in the early 70 to start a new life got to meet Kevin sitting next to him at Poor Pierre restaurant .He would share his little carpentry project ,and for me my little masonry one's from there it was an immediate bond, the rest is history .If you never got to meet him you don't know what you have missed. In this world there 3 kinds of people people that made things happen ( Kevin ) people that wonder how things happen (?) and then the one's that wonder what happened (?)

Gretchen and Scott Vurbeff said : Guest Report Jun 14, 2020 at 6:05 AM

Our condolences to the Slattery family and friends from our family in Carlsbad, neighbors of Jameson and Nicole, Addi and Katelyn. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful tribute to Kevin. Wow, I wish I had known him more than the brief hello in the neighborhood. Heavens gain is your great loss of a very loved man who was taken too soon. May God give you the strength to get through the days ahead.

Cindy and Normand Aube said : Guest Report Jun 11, 2020 at 11:16 PM

Diane, it broke my heart to hear of Kevin’s passing. I will always remember his sense of humor and all the great times we all had back then. I wish we hadn’t lost touch. Your family is in our thoughts and prayers.

Sandy Szarek said : Guest Report Jun 11, 2020 at 9:06 PM

I was so very sorry to hear of your brother Kevin's passing. I know how much he meant to you. And all the lives he touch. Amazing man indeed. I never met him, but I know he was a special soul sent to us for a short time. With love to you Kathy and Dick and all of the family.

Albert &Lisa Frenette said : Guest Report Jun 11, 2020 at 5:02 PM

My deepest condolences to the Slattery family Kevin was a man with a big heart He will be missed by everyone who knew him May God bless and help you all in the days ahead 🙏🏾

Patrick N Sanborn said : Guest Report Jun 11, 2020 at 3:38 PM

Almost 40yrs I've known Kevin...20yrs working with Tamarack....and although he was always Faithful to Tamarack.....he never forgot about me...Rest in Peace Kevin Slattery

Kirk Farrell said : Guest Report Jun 11, 2020 at 11:14 AM

Thank you brother for all the beautiful homes you built. Abraham Lincoln said: you can judge the quality of a nation by the quality of its homes. You brought hundreds of natural gas customers to my company which in turn pays my wages, benefits and pension. We shared the Bishop Guertin experience, you 1970 , myself 1971. You were a good man!

Edward Caron, Jr said : Guest Report Jun 11, 2020 at 9:44 AM

To the whole Slattery family, from the Caron family: Our most sincere condolences during this difficult time. We have spoken often and fondly of our genuine privilege to have know Kevin in so many ways for long long. For my part, I remember so well playing against the Etchstone Properties little league team at Lions Field (and facing the pure gasoline fastball served up regularly by Jaren). I recall Kevin as a wonderful, fair play focused and gracious coach to play against. Sitting here remembering vividly the borderline fear of standing in the batters box facing Jaren’s fastball however. As the years past, our family’s interaction with Kevin grew more focused on my fathers professional and personal interactions with him. But a year never went by without our entire family hearing a story demonstrating Kevin’s integrity, warmth generosity and professionalism. There is no point in me relating any of these, as we have no doubt everyone on this forum, as well as the entire southern NH community is well aware of all of them. Diane, Jaren and Jameson, you are in our prayers. We are saddened beyond measure at a Kevin’s passing, but stand here today endlessly grateful for Kevin having touched our collective lives in so many special ways.

Gerry Eckman said : Guest Report Jun 10, 2020 at 8:01 PM

On behalf of the Eckman family Martha and I want to extend our deepest sympathies to the Slattery family on the passing of Kevin. As we go through life we meet many people , most are good and decent, however if we are lucky we get to know someone truly exceptional and extraordinary like Kevin . He represented the true meaning of integrity, compassion, grit, determination, generosity, hard work , and focus all wrapped up in a great personality ! Kevin had a huge positive impact on many people , he made a difference. Martha and I were fortunate to have been able to share many wonderful experiences with Diane and Kevin for over 30 years , we will think of those great times together and him every day for the rest of our lives. Everyone loved Kevin Slattery!!

Deb and Ron said : Guest Report Jun 10, 2020 at 7:15 PM

Dear Diane and Family, My condolences to your family. Kevin was an extremely kind person. He built our retirement home and it’s beautiful. He will be missed by many.

Brad Westgate said : Guest Report Jun 10, 2020 at 6:59 PM

Kevin's strength of character filled a room. Love of family, loyalty, faith, service, integrity, hard work, generosity, kindness and friendship are only a few of his numerous traits. He touched many and in so doing passed along those traits. Diane, Jay and Jaron live by them as well, as evidenced by their poignant obituary of Kevin and their unwavering support. That picture of Kevin captures his spirit. It's all there. His selfless nature benefitted his customers, colleagues, partners, employees, contractors, vendors, co-volunteers, friends and more, too many to count. He gave people value and opportunities, and for some a livelihood. He took the risks but many enjoyed the benefits - a rare measure. He intuitively knew what was just and how and when to do the right thing. Others caught on and followed his lead. From all of us who knew Kevin, our deepest sympathies to Diane, Jay, Jaron, Kevin's siblings and their families.

Clint walker said : Guest Report Jun 10, 2020 at 5:46 PM

Kevin was a special person who was always reaching out to those in need.His positive energy was contagious, and was a true gentleman.He will be missed,he taught me a lot about being a better person and to be grateful on a daily basis.

Kathy Snyder said : Guest Report Jun 10, 2020 at 5:43 PM

A wonderful man who left many blessings behind. I had the opportunity to work with Kevin to sell some of his homes and he was always honest, detailed, and his quality was topnotch. I am sorry for the loss. Rest in peace.

Steven Shumsky said : Guest Report Jun 10, 2020 at 5:21 PM

I meet this young man 37yrs ago carrying to bundles of shingles at a time went over with my backhoe to help, kevin said it's my work out I said ok wow there's a self motivated man will you know the history , last time we meet in person was 1 plus ago after my son's passing. kevin stop by to give my grandchildren a donation,kevin said it remined him of his childhood we shared a hug and tear will miss you kevin

Harold Pope said : Guest Report Jun 10, 2020 at 4:50 PM

I am saddened to hear of Kevin's passing. I worked with him on occasion in the Real Estate industry or picked his brain on new construction issues from time to time. He came out to my late parents house in Amherst NH to evaluate the quality of the construction and to see if he deemed the land sub-dividable. I could always count on him telling it as he saw it. His knowledge of construction and building design was immense. He did it all as a favor. Logical, fair and likable. He always seemed to be having fun in his business endeavors. Terribly hard not to like Kevin Slattery. They don't make men like him anymore. Please accept my deepest condolences.

Gina Rosati said : Guest Report Jun 10, 2020 at 4:01 PM

Thank you, Kevin. You’ve created a neighborhood where my children had a wonderful childhood, you’ve built my dream home where my family has spent 24 happy years, and you were beyond patient with all of the “little” changes I asked you to make to the house plan. I was amazed when I saw you last fall at the ConCom meeting, and you remembered me after so long. I’m glad I followed you out of the meeting to catch up. Yours was a life well lived, and I’m grateful for all that you’ve done. My condolences to your family.

David Duquette said : Guest Report Jun 10, 2020 at 2:17 PM

I was shocked to hear of Kevin's passing after having seen him last November at my mother's (his aunt, Rolande Duquette) funeral in Nashua. Having lived in Wisconsin for 35 years, it is rare that I have the opportunity to see any of my cousins and I was very fortunate to be able to chat with Kevin at my mother's funeral reception. He seemed to be in good health so news of his illness was very much a surprise. I must say how impressed I was with the concern he expressed to me and my family and how articulate and knowledgeable he was in our conversation. I also recently saw a video interview that he did not too long ago in which he talked about his life, his business experience, and charitable work in his community, all of it constituting a stellar vocation. I came away wishing that I had been able personally to get to know my cousin Kevin much better. To all the members of his family, his friends, and colleagues, please accept my sincere condolences on your loss of this special man.

Jean and Doug Kennan said : Guest Report Jun 10, 2020 at 12:58 PM

We have only known you for a few years but you have become like family in that short period of time. The void in our hearts with the passing of Kevin will never fill. He brought such joy and happiness, especially to Doug who looked forward to and treasured his visits. Again, our condolences to all your family.

Tony Martinez said : Guest Report Jun 10, 2020 at 10:16 AM

I met Kevin on one of his many charitable events. He and I along with many others slept out in a box to help the homeless. This night out was a charity event for the United Way here in Nashua. I was inspired by his relentless devotion to duty and his tireless effort to give back to his community. Kevin will be greatly missed by all who were fortunate enough to know him. I am very sorry for his family as this loss must be devastating.

Dr. Karen Baranowski said : Guest Report Jun 10, 2020 at 10:13 AM

Kevin was a pillar of strength and support to the mission of Home Health & Hospice. He would call the agency on behalf of those needing care who came across his path in the community. Kevin was instrumental in securing the agency's current location. He leaves a huge void, and will be missed by many.

Mike & Tina Lozeau said : Guest Report Jun 10, 2020 at 8:50 AM

Kevin was a good and compassionate friend and we will miss him dearly.

John Morin said : Guest Report Jun 10, 2020 at 8:13 AM

Kevin was a very special person and I am honored to call him a friend. He will be missed immensely by all who shared his jest for life. My condolences to Diane and the entire family.

Paula Moran said : Guest Report Jun 10, 2020 at 6:58 AM

My condolences to all of you. I have been involved in the United Way for only a few years now, there was so much more to learn from Kevin, but I am grateful for having known him, volunteered with him and learned from him. This remembrance is so very touchy, well written and lovely. I am especially moved by "He would tell us to put unwavering faith in our Creator and remind us that the pleasure of what we enjoy is lost by wanting more." Such profound thoughts. Please know that I feel I am a better person for having known Kevin, and will always think of him with a great big smile (on his face and mine)! He always made me feel like a million bucks, even with a 2 minute conversation or a smile and wave from across the room. Peace to all of you - know that he is always with you all.

Jen O’Neill RN said : Guest Report Jun 10, 2020 at 6:03 AM

My condolences to your family during this time. In the short time I have known your family, Kevin became part of our family. You have all made such an impact on many of us. Please accept my prayers at this time. We are all thinking of you Jaron, Jay and Diane and family. What an amazing impact your dad/husband has made. Peace to you all.

Diane (Fariz) and David Walton said : Guest Report Jun 09, 2020 at 3:57 PM

Dear Diane and Family, Please accept my condolences on the loss of your husband and father. I've known Kevin since we were kids, and this obituary sized him up very well. He was always upbeat and friendly....and I always remember him as being a true gentleman. Nothing can fill the hole in your hearts, but please know that I will remember him and all of you in my prayers. May God bless you all and strengthen you in the difficult days ahead.

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